In today’s society, it is so hard to get through a day without someone trying to steal your joy, peace, or power. In this blog, we are going to cover how you can hold on to your personal power when you are faced with dealing with bullies or abusive people. One of the first steps is to be confident.
Be Confident
It is common knowledge that “bullies lose their power if you don’t back down. When you are confident and reassured, it tends to allow the bully or abusive person to understand that where you are concerned, they have no power over you, which makes them doubt themselves in most cases which oddly makes them become the person to back down. It will also weirdly give them a reason to respect you.
Suppose you understand that bullies and abusive people are usually afraid, unsure, or lack knowledge of how to handle emotions maturely. In that case, understanding their behavior and responding appropriately becomes much easier.
Detach From Your Emotions
When dealing with bullies or abusive people, it is also important to understand that they are almost always reacting in emotion and the worst thing you can do is react back with feeling.
It is far better to detach from your emotion and listen to what they are saying to you with objective and understanding ears.
Help them see their error in responding to the situation with objective and factual reasoning. If you have actually done something that has set them off, be sure to apologize and assure them you will try not to do whatever it was again.
Be Assertive
Again, as you speak with a bully or abusive person objectively and factually, be sure to only talk about the truth as you see or know it.
This will help you set the groundwork to gain that person’s trust, and with a bit of patience, the ability to reach that person and possibility get them to at least back-off and, in some cases, even apologize to you.
Another thing you will achieve with this approach is that you will build upon your confidence level and strengthen your ability to maintain your power.
Breathe
It is hard to deal with difficult people without becoming frustrated or overwhelmed, but it is also extremely important to remember to breathe and stay relaxed.
When you give in to that frustration or overwhelm, you give your power away. You are telling that person they have power over your ability or strength to control your emotions and response.
If you find it too challenging to remain calm and relaxed and the frustration is more than you can bear, that is your cue that it is time to walk away.
Know When To Walk Away
Knowing your limitations is also important in holding on to your power. For example, understanding that sometimes it is just best to walk away rather than give away your power or possibility cause harm to that person.
Not all problems can be solved by verbal communication. Sometimes you have to agree just to disagree and be the person who ends the disagreement by walking away and letting it go.
By doing this, you again tell the other person that they have no power over you.
In conclusion, it is important to remember that holding on to your personal power is your responsibility, and now that you have a few ways to do that, you will be able to hold onto it no matter what or who you have to deal with a day.
If you enjoyed this blog. Until next week, Namaste.
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