Welcome back, everyone, last week, I wrote about how we could use NLP techniques in our daily interactions with others. I thought this week I could stay with NLP as the topic of discussion but talk about it from a different point of view as I dive deeper into understanding NLP as a whole.
This week, I thought we could dive into the 14 different presuppositions on which NLP techniques are built. Now, let’s move into this week’s topic by asking,
What Does Presupposition Mean?
This is an important question to answer to grasp how they are important to the building of the NLP techniques.
According to the dictionary, presupposition means: a thing tacitly assumed beforehand at the beginning of a line of argument or course of action or the action or state of presupposing or being presupposed.
They are guidelines created before beginning and followed while performing desired actions. ( In this case, NLP techniques.)
Now that we understand what presuppositions are let’s look at all 14 of the presuppositions that guide NLP techniques and practice.
The Fourteen Presuppositions:
- Respect is when you work to see from the other person’s point of view.
- Behavior and change are when you can observe the other person for shifts in behavior or mannerisms. This will help you gauge if they are becoming agitated or feel comfortable with the topic of discussion.
- Resistance – if you detect this in the other person, they are telling you that they do not feel safe discussing the topic with you and the best thing you can do is allow them to understand that they are safe with you by creating an avenue for them to feel that way. Sometimes that might be as simple as changing the subject and reaching another time.
- Understanding people are not their behaviors – meaning you have to accept the person but work to change the behavior. All you can do is help the other person understand that the behavior is wrong, not them as individuals.
- Everyone is doing their best – This means understanding that all behavior is acted out based on the best intention. As hard as it may be to believe, people actually feel at the time of the behavior that they will be serving some good in their behavior regardless of the actual outcome.
- Collaborating on the behavior – The essential part of a person you will ever know comes from that person’s behavior. We also get to know ourselves by observing our behavior, so talk with that person or yourself when needed to discuss what you have observed.
- The map is not the territory – our words are not the event, only how we remember the event. Therefore, from their perspective, we must pay attention to the memories of the event.
- People have all the reasons they need to succeed and achieve their desired outcomes – meaning if we look at our histories or past achievements, we will find reassurance and motivation to believe we can achieve the desired result again.
- Everyone is in charge of their own results – meaning if a person is focused on a certain result, they will figure out how to produce the desired outcome or result.
- All interventions should bring about wholeness – if you are working to help the other person, it has to be to get about the completeness or for the other person to have a deeper understanding of oneself or the situation.
- There is only feedback – there is no failure, only feedback, and feedback should always be welcome as it will help us improve our behavior.
- The meaning of communication is the response you get – as we have a 100% of the responsibility for what we are communicating. If we notice that our message is not being received the way we had intended, then you should work to try another way of communicating it so that it can be received better.
- The law of requisite variety – this was when you met the other person’s needs by being flexible and bending in the ways they needed you to.
- All procedures should be designed to create choice – you will need to be flexible and open to change.
If you can keep these fourteen presuppositions in mind as you interact with others throughout your day, you will see that you will build rapport with just about everyone you speak with, which will allow you to find more success and achievement in your own daily actions.
Final Thoughts
I hope that with last week’s blog and this week’s topic of NLPpresuppositions that you have a much more complete understanding of what NLP is and how you can use it in everyday life and interactions with others.
If you find this topic interesting, I found this free course that you might want to check out. I hope you found this helpful information enjoyable. If you want to share your thoughts on this topic, please do so in the reply section below. Until next week, Namaste.
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