Welcome back, everyone, This week, I thought it would be a good idea to discuss a topic I have personally struggled with throughout my life. Like most people, I have had an issue with self-sabotage.
I have found along my journey that there are an endless number of ways we can sabotage ourselves, but today I will discuss 5 of the most harmful ways that I feel a person can sabotage themselves.
Allow me to start with just a basic understanding of what self-sabotage is.
What Is Self Sabotage?
Self-sabotage is the behaviors or thought patterns that hold you back and prevent you from doing what you wish to do, dream you can do, or what you believe you can do.
This would mean any behavior or thought pattern you could develop. I stated earlier that there are endless ways to achieve self-sabotage.
One of the most used ways to self-sabotage comes from limiting beliefs.
Limiting Beliefs –
This is undoubtedly a powerful way to keep you from growing or achieving anything of real value, as limiting beliefs are nothing more than negative thoughts or opinions that you would believe to be absolute truth even though they could be and usually are complete lies that you or others are telling you.
It is hard to see the truth when lies surround you, but all those lies tell you is that you are insecure, and your self-esteem is low at that moment. So instead, they tell you that you need to spend a little more time nurturing yourself and surrounding yourself with more positive and encouraging people.
If you get to the point that you can recognize that anything that is keeping you down is not good for you, you will be much more capable of letting go of whatever that may be and reaching for things that are far better for you.
Procrastination –
This is another way we tend to self-sabotage. I think just about everyone on this earth has or will do we do this? So why would we postpone something?
It is usually because I either doubt I can do it or fear that I will not achieve the outcome I most desire. Again this comes back to those limiting beliefs I was just talking about.
If you are procrastinating, you should ask yourself why? Once you recognize what you are afraid of, you can approach things differently and, in most cases, will succeed in getting what you are trying to do done.
Over Thinking –
This is one of the ways I sabotage myself the worst, as I tend to dive into the minor details of every decision before actually making it. However, I believe that all analytical people do this; it is just another way to procrastinate from deciding to move forward with whatever you want.
Do not get me wrong, I am a firm believer in making calculated moves or decisions, but at some point, the thinking has got to become active, and it is not necessary to know every detail before taking said action.
I can tell you I have to remind myself of this all the time.
Trying To Control The Outcome –
Be honest! I used to be this queen bee when I was younger. I thought I would control everything in my life and everyone in it.
However, I would eventually learn that this is not how things work, and the only thing we have control over is ourselves. It is important to state that some people can not even manage that level of control.
In truth, to think we can control anything outside ourselves is a pure illusion and a complete waste of time and energy. In many cases will leave you heartbroken or disappointed.
Unhealthy relationships –
Having an unhealthy relationship with others is a pretty regular thing in our society these days as there are so many angry or misguided people nowadays. So if you have those kinds of relationships, you may want to take the time to reconsider whether or not to continue in that relationship.
However, saying the relationships, we have with ourselves are the relationships that can be the most toxic to us as we can not escape ourselves as much as some people would like to think they can.
Suppose we have limiting beliefs or negative self-talk that keeps us from growth, inner peace, or being encouraged or empowered to chase and achieve our dreams. In that case, you should be asking questions and seeking out some help to see you and matters from a different perspective.
We should always be our greatest advocates and strongest supporter. Suppose we can play that role for ourselves. In that case, we will draw people to us that will treat us with that level of love and dedication, and even better, because we are taking care of our mental, emotional, and spiritual needs, we will be much more able to care for others properly as well.
Now, as I come to a close, I hope you found something of value from this week’s blog, and please feel free to share your thought and comments below. I would love to hear anything you would like to share. Until next week everyone, Namaste
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