Welcome back, everyone, this week, I thought I would discuss how to hold yourself and others accountable. You might ask why I would be writing about this topic? This would be an excellent question. I would answer within today’s society; it seems to be a trend to hold everyone else accountable without holding oneself accountable for their actions.
I will admit it is easy to hold others accountable if you have been impacted by that person’s actions. Still, it is essential that if you feel it necessary to do so that you be willing to hold yourself accountable for your actions as well. As the saying goes, “ for every action, there is a reaction” It is just as important to understand your actions as it would be for your to understand theirs.
I will break down the levels of accountability for you in this article. These levels are awareness, impact, and commitment. Please read on if you would like to understand how to hold yourself and others accountable.
Awareness:
What is awareness? It’s a heightened knowledge or perception of a situation or facts. It is important to have awareness; fortunately for all of us, it is a part of our basic survival insects.
When it comes to thought processes, feelings, and actions, in many cases, what you see is not what really is, and thus it is harder to be aware of what people may be doing, thinking, or feeling without some investigation.
The first question that should be asked is,
What are they covering up?
Most people cover up their motivation, and some unknowingly bury them too deep to know why they are doing, thinking, or feeling something in the way they are. So to honestly know if someone is accountable, you must first ask what they are covering up or concealing.
The second question would be, what is causing this cover-up?
What is causing this cover-up?
It is important to understand that people always think they are doing the right thing even if it is only for their sake, whereas others do not really know why they do some of the things they do, and it is really underlying trauma that drives them.
It’s important to always look at the root of something before looking at how it has or will impact you or others.
Impact:
The impact is the second step of the process of accountability. What does impact mean? It is when an action of one object comes forcibly into contact with another.
Have you ever been hit by a ball? If you have, you will know that it hurts, and people’s actions, feelings, and words can have the same kind of impact on us and us on them.
An excellent example of this would be a breakup; most relationships end poorly and lead to broken hearts. Most of us have felt a broken heart at one point or another, and we know that it hurts. This hurt can alter our perception of people and the world, and that perception change is the lasting outcome that can change the way we now interact with people.
Most of us have tons of bias regarding certain situations or events, and if you look at the root causes, you will understand that it is driven by the impact of other people’s thoughts, feelings, actions, or words.
To hold someone accountable, you must first understand the why behind the action, thoughts, words, or feelings.
Commitment:
Commitment is the third part of the process of accountability. So, what is a commitment? Commitment is a state of being fully dedicated to a cause or activity.
In this case, it would be referring to the commitment to action, the action that you would be willing to take to create change in your thought, words, or feelings, or how you would like to influence a change in someone else.
The first step in this thought process would be to ask yourself,
- What actions can you take?
- What transformation will be made?
The second step would be to take action in a way that actually creates this change. Again, in some cases, this will be a one-time action, and in other cases, it may be something you will have to apply to your daily routine. Still, whatever the cases may be for you, it is important to take the action needed in order to reach the desired outcome.
Final thoughts
I hope, as always, that you found this information helpful and can now better understand how to hold yourself and others accountable.
If you have any thoughts you would like to share, please do so in the comment section below.
Until next week, Namaste.
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