Welcome back, everyone; this week, I thought I would discuss the seven ways you can learn from emotional outbursts. Of course, if you are a human, you likely have an emotional outburst. (I know I have had my fair share of emotional outbursts throughout the years.)
This week I thought I would help you understand the good and the bad that comes with these outbursts.
As I tend to say, “ with knowledge comes responsibility, and with responsibility comes the ability to find resolution, and with resolution comes change.”
If you would like to understand the possible cause of your outburst, how to find a solution, or if you would like to find a way to help someone you know with this issue, please read on.
What is an emotional outburst?
Take the time to break the words down into their separate meanings. You will understand that Emotions refer to feelings, and Outbursts refer to a sudden and usually intense expression of an emotion or feeling.
An emotional outburst refers to rapid changes in an emotional expression where strong or exaggerated feelings and emotions occur.
Now that you understand emotional outbursts let’s look at why people have them.
Finding the reason behind the outburst
The reason behind emotional outbursts can vary from lack of sleep to stress below. First, however, I will list some of the most common reasons you might find yourself or others having an emotional outburst.
- Stress
- Lack of sleep
- Poor diet
- Lack of regular exercise
- Major life changes
- Grief
- Past trauma
- Hormones
- Anxiety
- Depression
And then, of course, emotional outbursts are linked to and quite common with people who suffer from a variety of mental disorders such as
- ADHD
- Borderline personality disorder
- Major depressive disorder
- Schizophrenia
- Bipolar disorder
- Obsessive-compulsive disorders
Or any mental disorder that would cause extreme moodiness, anxiety, paranoia, or irritability due to confusion or overwhelm.
If you find that you suffer from extreme mood swings, intense anger that leaves you with the desire to do yourself or others harm, a heightened sense of anxiety, or depression, please seek professional help from your family doctor, a physiologist, or a counselor to help to get your mental health back in check.
Dealing with the emotions behind the outburst
If you find that you have more emotional outbursts than you think you should and know that you do not have a mental disorder, the step to finding a way to deal with any problem is first to figure out the cause.
Once you have pinned down the cause, you can then take steps to resolve the problem. An example would be if you only get four hours of sleep per night which causes you to be anxious and irritable.
The solution would be for you to schedule a way for more sleep, and if it is you just can’t sleep due to a racing mind, you could try a mild over-the-counter sleep aide, which helps without causing you to oversleep or miss your deadlines. But, of course, this is just a simple solution to this problem.
Who do I affect with my outburst?
Believe it or not, you can affect more people than you think with an emotional outburst, especially if it is done in view of the public.
You will find that you will always affect the person you are taking your emotions out on and in one way or another; however, in saying that, you can also affect numerous others when your outburst is in public.
The question is, how are you affecting them?
How do I affect others with my outbursts?
It will depend on what kind of outburst you are having. If, for example, you are having a mild outburst due to some sort of frustration or overwhelm, in most cases, you will only catch the attention of others as you let them know you are frustrated and need help in one way or another and you could upset or offend the person you are directing your outburst towards.
On the other hand, if it is a major outburst, you could do far more damage as you will likely leave people afraid for their safety. In addition, you will break trust or put people in a position to question your well-being or mental and emotional state.
If you have regular emotional outbursts, you can harm others as you will undoubtedly affect the person you are directing your outburst toward by dismissing their self-esteem and confidence. They are likely to be in a heightened state of fear when around you and question their safety and your wellbeing in your presence. Basically, you will kill all possible trust between you and them.
As to those you will affect in public view, many of them might fear you or be shocked by your behavior, leading them to form an opinion that you are a certain kind of person, whether you are or not. This could then affect your reputation and future relationships.
What can I do differently?
If you did not realize that your outbursts were affecting others in this way and now that you would like to figure out a way to change, then the question of what I can do differently would apply.
The first thing you can do is find the source of the problem, then take the proper steps to find the resolution. An example of this will be if you find that you are not as active as you should be. The solution would be to start adding exercise to your daily routine, or if you have heightened anxiety, you could make time to meditate and relax every day.
Once you resolve the problem, the next step is to repair any breakdown you have created in your relationships. A good step would be to say you are sorry and then inform them that you are taking measures to ensure those outbursts will no longer happen. In most cases, the healing process will then begin.
Final Thoughts
We have covered the seven ways you can learn from emotional outbursts. Perhaps you will be more mindful when you feel the onset of frustration or overwhelm by the knowledge that, in many cases, outbursts will do more harm than good.
However, almost every issue can be resolved with some calm words and the willingness to look for a resolution.
As always, I hope you found this information helpful and that if you know someone with who this information could help, you will take the time to share it with them. Also, If you would like to share your thought on this topic, please do so in the commit section below.
Until next week, Namaste.
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