Learning How To Love Yourself

Welcome back everyone, this week I would like to take some time and discuss how you can learn to love yourself. I have noticed in my interaction with people how there are so many people in this world who struggle to love and accept themselves.

 For those of you that are self-aware of this issue, there are some practices I would like you to try and a book you might be interested in reading. The book is entitled “loving yourself as though your life depended on it” the author’s name is Kamal Rauilcant. In this book, you will find an in-depth look at how to love yourself. 

If however, you are looking for a basic overview of the tips and practices that you can try according to Kamal Rauilcant, then stick with me as I will break down these basic practices that you can do every day and begin to truly start loving and accepting yourself as you are.

According To Kamal

There are three major steps you must be fully willing to take in order to begin loving yourself. These three steps are,

1. Making the vow to commit
2. Making it a daily practice
3. Connecting and influencing

He also points out, before going into the details of the meaning behind this three-step process that before you can begin to love yourself, you must first forgive yourself of any wrongdoing toward yourself or others. He goes into great detail as to how you can take a step-by-step action approach to achieve this goal in the book. He also points out that by forgiving yourself you will start to let go of the past and by extension, you will begin to free yourself from within.

The Vow

The first step in the three-step process is to decide to commit to loving yourself. He states that to do this you must take a step-by-step approach, which he describes as,

1. Going somewhere private. A place you feel safe and can allow your thoughts to flow freely. You would have some paper and a writing tool so you could write this vow or creed out.
2. You would sit down and write this vow which would be a detailed list of all the things you would be willing to do to show yourself how to deeply, completely, and honestly love yourself in every way.
3. You can rewrite this list as many times as it takes to create a perfect list that you would be proud to put where you and others could see it.
4. Put the list up in your perfect spot, this spot has to be a place that you can see with ease every day and as often as possible.

Kamal points out that your vow must reflect who you are and what you honestly believe, or it will not work the way it is intended to work.

The Ten Breaths

The second step in this process he refers to as the ten breaths he goes into detail by stating that you start this process by

1. Finding a quiet spot where you feel comfortable and relaxed.
2. Putting on some soothing music.
3. Closing your eyes and taking in a breath.
4. With every breath you take in you focus on each thing that you have written on your list that you will do to love yourself and with every time you breathe out you release any negative or limiting beliefs you have about yourself.
5. You repeat this breathing in and out ten times before bringing your breathing back to a normal rhythm and just allowing yourself to fade into the music and connect with your higher self.
6. When you are ready you allow yourself to come back to an awake state and continue on with your day.

He also points out that to do this daily or even several times a day and with the same music each time that after a week or so of this practice when the music comes on you will find yourself going into an instant state of calm and silence so that you can begin your practice.

The Three Mirrors

The final step of this three-step process he refers to as the three mirrors. He states for those who are resistant to the idea of this practice or the idea of loving themselves that they should try this and see if it does not help them to become more willing to let go of the resistance.

This practice starts with you standing and looking at yourself in a mirror for five minutes and with a mental loop start repeating over and over again the same mantra, his example was “ I love myself”. He states that after a few minutes you will begin to feel a tingle that by the five-minute mark will turn into a vibration that will leave you feeling lighter and less blocked.

He goes on to say that to do this right after doing the ten breaths that the three mirrors will have higher energy and much more powerful vibration to it. And finally, he points out that you should take your time with this process and allow things to flow through you freely to get the most out of these practices.

Final Thoughts:

I found this book an interesting read and would encourage anyone who is struggling with self-love, self-confidence, or self-esteem to take some time to at least try these practices and possibly even take the time to dive deeper into this idea by reading Kamal Rauilcant’s book “ Loving yourself like your life depended on it”.

As always, I hope you found this information useful for your journey toward becoming positively improved. If you have anything you would like to share please do so in the comment section, as I always love to read your thoughts. Until next week, Namaste.