Welcome back everyone, this week I thought we could discuss the five love languages. In 1992 we were all introduced to Gary Chapman who wrote and released The Five Love Languages and introduced us to a whole new concept of how to relate to the idea of love.
As we all know now, love is like any language. If you speak the same language as the person you are speaking to all is well and if not, many miscommunications can occur.
For anyone who has read the book, you will know it is an interesting read with lots of tip bites of information to help you learn all the love languages that you might need to know.
I thought this week we could cover the concepts and ideas of this book and then I would leave you with a way to see which love languages you speak.
The Five Love Languages
Quality Time
The first love language we will discuss is quality time. In, today’s busy and highly demanding world, it is hard for so many to give any real quality time with anyone, but for those who speak this love language, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention.
Being there for this type of person is critical, but you have to be completely there, with the TV off, fork, and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby, which makes this person feel truly special and loved.
Distractions postponed activities, or failing to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether it is talking uninterruptedly with someone else or doing activities together, you deepen your connection with others through sharing time.
Words of Affirmation
The second love language we will discuss is words of affirmation. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” is important but to also hear the reasons behind the words I love you sends you soaring.
Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up.
If you know someone who speaks this language, then you will always have far more success connecting with them through the use of words that affirm and show wholehearted appreciation for them and all they do for you.
Acts of Service
Can help with any kind of task no matter how big or small really express love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities of another person especially someone you love is an act of service which is the third love language that we will discuss today.
People who speak this love language would most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. When others serve you out of love (and not obligation), you feel truly valued and loved.
If you know someone who speaks this language, then examine what you could do that would help ease their day or burdens. That person will probably, be rewarded for the effort.
Physical Touch
The fourth love language that we will discuss is physical touch when this is your primary love language, you will love to be touched no matter whether the touch is a. Hug, pat on the back, or thoughtful touch on the arm, they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love.
Being physical presence and accessibility is crucial. While neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
If you know someone who speaks this love language, then do your part to set time aside a few times each day to speak to them through a simple touch this will leave them feeling loved and safe.
Receiving Gifts
The fifth and final love language that we will discuss is receiving gifts. It is important to not mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows you are cared for,
However, a missed birthday or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous, and so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are heartfelt symbols to you of someone else’s love and affection for you.
If you know someone with this love language, it will be vital to your relationship that any kind of investment will be given regularly, but it does not always have to be a bought gift, it can be simple acts or gestures that would be noteworthy too that person
Final Thoughts:
No matter what love language you or your partner may speak it is important to understand what the language is so communication and connection can be accomplished. Gary Chapman advised in his book that you sit down with those that you love and evaluate where your love bank is at no less than once a month and it would be preferable to this at least once a week.
By doing this, your love bank will always stay full and the relationship that you are working on will thrive and stay healthy, however, if life gets in the way and you do not check where your love bank level is it could cause a breakdown in your relationship with that person which could lead to devastating consequences.
If you are unsure what your love language is, then I found this Love Language Quiz which should help figure out all your love languages no matter how many you may have. As always, I hope you found this information helpful as you travel your journey to become positively improved.
If you have any comments or thoughts, you would like to share please feel free, to share them in the comment section as I always love to read my reader’s thoughts. Until next week, Namaste.
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