Welcome back, everyone this week I thought we could discuss how to shine conscious light on your trauma. It is proven every day that we all have some kind of trauma. Most of us can tell some kind of horror story from our childhood that left us forever changed.
Many of us can do the same about something that has happened to us as adults as well but not all of us understand our trauma or how it was actually created. However, to solve the problem you first have to be aware of it and then you have to find the root cause. This is what I would like to discuss this week.
I would like to help you to expose the problem, and see its source in a hope that you can understand yourself and how to manage past trauma more positively and productively.
If you would be interested in learning how to see and heal your trauma then stick with me as I embark on the next step in our journey toward becoming positively improved.
The Trigger –
We all have triggers and they can come from anywhere at any time. For those of you who do not understand what I mean by “ Trigger “, I mean when you get overly emotional in any way because of something you heard, felt, smelled, or seen.
In most cases, the overwhelming feelings manifest in anger or sadness but it can honestly be any emotion at all. When you feel this overwhelming emotion, you have been given a signal that there is a problem that needs to be addressed.
Most people honestly, can not see past the emotion, some might see as far as the reaction but very few can see the real problem that needs to be addressed. You have to be aware of how to look at these triggers, to see the real problem is always the fact you are reacting and not responding.
This leads me to how to start approaching your triggers to better understand and respond appropriately. As stated above the first step is to first notice that you have been triggered, once you have done this, the next step is to detach and step back from the emotions so you can ask yourself a series of questions. This is not always easy to do but if you can manage it you will be so happy in the end that you did.
What Are You Feeling?
The first question you should be asking yourself once you have detached and stepped back is what am I feeling? You probably think that it would be obvious as you feeling a certain way and that it would require no thought to come up with an answer to that question and in some cases, you might be right.
Yet, in other cases, you might be surprised that you honestly do not understand what you are feeling at all. You would probably, be surprised to really see how many people react without understanding what it is that they are feeling let alone why they are feeling it.
Yet, we all know that knowledge is power and that holds especially true when it comes to knowledge of ourselves. So, when you feel that trigger, ask yourself what you are feeling and take the time to really feel it.
It is important to understand if you are feeling it there is a reason, so feel the emotion as you take the time to feel and understand what you are feeling, you will also be setting yourself up to ask the next question.
Why Are You Feeling This?
The next question you should ask yourself, is why am I feeling this? In many cases, if you take the time to examine why you are feeling what you are, you will see that you are overreacting to something that was actually triggered due to a separate event that happened in the past.
Understanding why you are feeling the emotion is another important step in understanding yourself and even better how to understand, where your trauma came from and how it was created and can be resolved.
Once you see the trigger, why you are feeling the way you are, and why you are feeling what you are you are ready for the next step which is to understand why you react how you do.
How Did I Connect This Reaction?
Are reactions to any given situation stem from beliefs that were formed in the event that caused the initial trauma? So, for you to find the answer to this question or any new knowledge about yourself from this point will require you to dig deep.
You will have to think back to the first time you faced a situation that was similar to the one you are reacting to at this moment. You will have to start to see how the belief that you have was formed and how you connected that reaction to your current emotion or situation.
As you start to see this unfold before your mind’s eye. You will start to gain a new understanding of yourself and how you react, feel and do the things you do. Once you can see this about yourself, you will also be ready to start resolving the problem.
How Can I Change?
Now, that you are ready to resolve the problem, you are ready to start looking for ways that you could handle this and any related situations differently. You can start to learn and research and seek out answers to the question “ how can I change?”
You will also see how the trauma that you once felt so strongly about is starting to heal and affect you less and less. You will understand, from this point how to bring your trauma into the light and heal it.
You will begin to see yourself more and more as forever changed for the better and as you heal you will begin to understand how to help those around you to do the same, thus, leaving this world a little better, one person at a time.
Learn To Accept And Love –
A huge part of the healing process is to learn how to love and accept, yourself, your situation as it is, the people around you, and the opportunity to grow. It is not always easy to accept things as they are, it is completely normal as a human to be driven to want to fix or change something that you feel needs to be fixed or changed.
Yet, you must first understand it before you can fix it or change it, and while you are learning you find things to go much easier on you when you love yourself and accept things as they are, with a full understanding that all is as it should be.
If you are being made aware of a problem or if past trauma is being brought to the surface it is because you are meant to deal with it. It is now a time of healing and change for you and a large part of that transition will need to be made with love and acceptance.
Final Thoughts:
Now, that I have come to the end of this week’s discussion, I would like to say I hope that the next time you are overwhelmed with emotion you hit the pause button before reacting and ask yourself these questions. I have no doubts that you will be grateful that you did.
As Alway I hope you found this information useful. If you know someone who could benefit from this information, please feel free to share this with them. If you would like to share your thoughts or feeling on this topic, please do so in the comment section.
Thank you for taking this next step with me along our journey toward becoming positively improved. Until next week, Namaste.
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