Welcome back, everyone. In this week’s newsletter, I thought revising one of my old posts would be a good idea. I noticed that this post did not seem to get too many reads, and I would like to touch it up to see if it gets more attention, as I think that this information is vital knowledge to have.
Thus, this week’s newsletter will cover how to find self-assurance when insecure. Let me kick this off with: have you ever felt so insecure with some area of your life that you find it hard to function or get through your day with that weight of anxiety or self-doubt? How can you find enough self-assurance to lower your anxiety level to work better if you do?
If you are interested in finding out, then below you will be given four steps to resolve this issue. I encourage you to stick around as I take this next step toward becoming positively improved.
Step One: Recognize the problem
If you are having feelings of anxiety, you must first recognize that something is triggering the feeling of having that anxiety. This means you must dig down to determine what is causing the trigger.
In most cases, it deals with the fear of something, whether that be the loss of something or someone, or it could be a fear of an outcome you do not want. But whatever it is, in most cases, as I said before, it comes down to fear.
When you recognize the fear clearly, you will be one step closer to resolving the underlying issue. It is important to note that the very objective you are trying to reach is a resolution of the issue, but seeing the fear is only one of several steps needed to achieve this goal. However, in saying that, once this fear is resolved, you will feel so much more safe and reassured as your insecurity begins to fade to the back of your mind.
Step Two: Discovering the root of the problem
The root of any problem stems from an event or experience you had. Whatever happened inside that situation, there was an outcome you were unprepared to handle, which caused you to link an emotional response to that outcome or overall situation. This emotional response will also connect to a sense of fear or insecurity.
This means you will have to dig down and see which event or experience is causing the issue that you have to deal with, which will open the door for you to know why it is causing you to feel afraid or insecure. From here, you can start piecing together how to solve the overall problem in a healthy and prosperous way.
This step will also have the added benefit of showing you a core issue that you will now have the opportunity to heal as you will now clearly see it, putting you one step closer to feeling self-assured and confident.
Step Three: Finding a solution
This step can be full of challenges but only requires, in most cases, a simple perspective change.
Let’s take for an example if you have ever felt like a failure. If you have ever seen yourself as a failure, you have likely thought you will always fail, encouraging you to stop trying still, if you flip your perspective to know that you can never fail as long as you try and give your best. You would be more encouraged to try, and if you should fail, you can walk away knowing that at least you tried, and you will find failing will not be so scary or even necessary anymore.
Can you see how all it took to solve that problem was a simple mind shift? In most cases, that mind shift is all that is required for you to start feeling more assured or at least much less insecure.
Now you have the solution. This means you can start putting action steps into play and, once and for all, resolving the overall issue that keeps you from feeling reassured and safe. Of course, you will also have the added benefit at this point of ultimately killing off any insecurity you might have had up to this point.
Step 4: Putting the solution into action
This step will take mindful discipline to get it to work in your favor. Still, if you take the time to break things down into small actions and are mindful of every decision you make, you will start to see that you will feel much more at peace, even in the most chaotic situations.
You will also see that you no longer have the same emotional connection to the issue you have been working to resolve. By changing this emotional connection, you will be able to see with a more positive perspective, and with this new perspective, you will feel wholly reassured and confident, and any insecurity is just gone from your mind.
One of the ways I found to work for me when I became afraid or insecure is to stop and just take a few deep breaths and tell myself that everything is okay. This helps me to calm down just enough to think; from there, I can take decisive action to solve whatever I might be facing.
Final Thoughts
As I start to wrap this up, feeling self-assured when dealing with insecurities is challenging. It will take a lot of determination and practice to master it. Still, if you take the time to practice daily, you can control every insecurity you have.
As I bring this week’s newsletter to its close, I hope you enjoyed this week’s topic and got some value out of it. If you know someone who might benefit from this information, please share it with them.
If you have any thoughts on this topic that you would like to share, please share them in the comment section. As always, thank you for taking this step with me toward becoming positively improved. Until next week, namaste.
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