Welcome back, everyone. This week, I would like to explore the topic of Healthy mind, body, and spirit vs. toxic mind-body-spirit life balance.
In the world today, there is a great divide regarding being healthy or unhealthy. In my discussions with others, healthy people spend more time trying to feel and look their best, while people who lean toward being unhealthy are more about instant gratification and pleasure.
In this week’s newsletter, I will explore the difference between these lifestyles, and I will then leave you with some questions you should ask yourself if you want to make some changes. If you are ready to take the next step with me toward becoming positively improved, then let’s jump on in.
Definitions:
Okay, before we really dive into this week’s topic, let me pause for a minute and give you some definitions that will help along the way.
In this week’s newsletter there are four words that will be mentioned that will have a lot of significance. Below, you will be given these words and their meanings. Take the time to absorb these words before moving on.
Life balance –
This is when you can balance your time work along with your time building relationships, creating new memories, and time for yourself as well
Healthy –
indicative of, conducive to, or promoting good health.
Toxic –
When you or someone you know is very harmful or unpleasant in a pervasive or insidious way.
Relationship –
how two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected.
What a toxic relationship has to make them appear toxic.
Now that we are ready to move on, below, you will find six ways that poisonous relationships tend to appear toxic. If you see any relationship you have, no matter the person, place, or thing, take the time to examine the relationship. You might need to walk away if things do not change.
But with that, let’s jump in.
Leaving you with a feeling of a lack of safety
This is one of the most noticeable things to me about a toxic relationship. If you can not be yourself, share your thoughts, feelings, or desires. This issue needs to be looked at with a very close lens. It is time to explore what or how you feel so unsafe around this person.
Emotionally Draining
This is also a tell-tale sign when you find you are this way only around a specific person or situation. Nothing should drain you emotionally unless you have zero resilience or you literally get no sleep. Suppose you find that you are exhausted emotionally more than mentally or physically. In that case, it is time to take a step back and examine things with an objective lens or perspective.
In many cases, minor adjustments can be made here, but if there is simply no way to create change, you may have to walk away from that relationship for your sake if no one elses.
If you feel ashamed, guilty, worried, or as if you are a constant disappointment to the other person.
If you find this true for you, take it as a glaring neon flashing sign that you need to move on. More often than not, this behavior will remain the same. The kind of behavior that leaves a person feeling diminished or belittled is more about the giver than the receiver in all cases.
No one should be little you, even if there is behavior on your part that needs to be corrected. We all want to be loved and deserve common courtesy and respect. If you are not getting this, it is time to move on.
When your relationship is out of balance.
If you find that your relationship requires one of the two to do more, handle more, tolerate more, and so on, then the relationship is out of balance, and things need to be examined and potentially adjusted.
Relationships can get out of balance so easily; the trick is to keep them from staying that way for any length of time. However, if you find that this is what the one doing nothing for the relationship wants and is unwilling to do their part to rebalance the relationship, then it will come down to a decision on your part as to the direction things will go.
When you or they seek payback for being hurt or disappointment
When things get to the point that you are playing the tit-for-tat game, it is time to throw in the towel. Once your relationship gets this toxic, when paying bad behavior back with bad behavior, there is little you can do to put the pieces back together.
If you find that someone has disappointed you too many times or won’t stop hurting you, you have to pay them back to get them to stop or straighten up and treat you right. Stop! Your relationship with that person is over; whether you end it now or later is up to you.
When you are left feeling alone or unloved regularly.
Feeling alone or unloved has more to do with insecurity than actually being alone or unloved. If you have ever read anything on loneliness, you will know the feeling of loneliness is actually created because you feel disconnected from everything and everyone. The best way to fix this is to find ways to start connecting with others.
However, if you find someone telling you you are unloved or will always be alone. Stop listening to them and find ways to get away or avoid them altogether. These people are most definitely poisonous for you.
Now, with that, I will close the first half of this topic. Next week, I will show you what it takes to make a healthy relationship appear healthy.
Final Thoughts:
We have only looked at the first half of the topic, and it would be hard to assess your relationship honestly without both sides. Still, you have been given enough information in this week’s newsletter to take a step back and see if any of the information here fits the way your relationship is. If you find that more than one of these explanations above fits your relationship, I strongly encourage you to seek professional help if needed and, if not, to find a way to move on.
It is crucial if you have a toxic relationship, you do not and should not stay in it. That person or you, if you are the toxic one, is not capable of loving, caring for, or supporting you or your partner the way they or you need.
Now, with that, I hope you found this information of value. If you know someone who could use this information, please share it with them. If you would like to add to this topic discussion, please do so in the comment section below.
I hope you join me next week for the second half of this discussion, until then, namaste.
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