Welcome back, everyone. This week’s topic is on insecurities and how you can recognize them and then debunk them when you are ready. I have seen so many people who have struggled with their insecurities over the years. So many can not recognize the insecurity let alone where it originated from, which would make it rather hard to debunk.
This is what inspired me to write on this topic. Thus, below, I will give you some of the most common insecurities that people face, and then I will follow up with ways that you can begin to debunk the lies that these insecurities are telling. So, without further ado, Stay with me as I take this next step toward becoming positively improved.
The most common insecurities – defined.
As I researched this topic, I was amazed to discover how many common daily insecurities people face. Reading the list below may help you better understand what I mean. I encourage you to recognize if any of them resonate with you.
- Attachment insecurities – this insecurity tends to stem from childhood trauma or from continual rejection from romantic partners. This insecurity makes it rather challenging for the person to feel secure in relationships, and often, they struggle with feeling unloved or as if they are completely alone and unseen.
- Professional insecurities – In many cases, this insecurity stems from consistent criticism of this person’s professional ability, leaving them with feelings of uncertainty, anxiety, feeling as if they never measure up, and, by extension, doubt and a lack of confidence.
- Aging Insecurities – In most cases, this insecurity is brought on as people start to feel less attractive, notice changes to their bodies, or have to face their mortality in one way or another. This insecurity tends to leave the person feeling unworthy, afraid of what will come or closed off from others.
- Body Image insecurities are usually brought on by consent criticism of a person’s body or through society’s shaming of people who look like them. This leaves the person feeling ashamed of their appearance and, in most cases, wanting to hide themselves away or go unseen, making them feel alone and unwanted by others.
- Criticism Insecurities – These are usually brought on by having expectations set that were not met, whether by you or another person. This can leave the person who has received the harsh criticism feeling lesser, unworthy, or incapable of completing any task to the standard of the person who gave the criticism.
- Perfectionism is a psychological insecurity that leads the individual to seek to reach a level of flawlessness by setting exceptionally high standards. When the expectation of perfection is not reached, it leaves the person with a poor self-image, worry, disappointment, and, in extreme cases, anxiety or stress.
- Lack of – The lack of insecurity is usually brought on by the fear of not receiving the support needed to meet their basic needs, almost always because, in some way, this individual has been denied more than one basic need. This can leave people feeling paranoid, lonely, unloved, unseen, and unwanted. It can also place them in a survival mindset, doing whatever it takes to obtain the needs they are being denied.
- Rejection – is an insecurity caused by repeated rejection of people for one or more reasons. Again, this can leave people with low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, unloved, or lonely.
- Fear of failure is usually caused by a lack of security in one’s relationships, environments, or oneself. It can leave the person feeling worried, as though they are a disappointment or unworthy of the relationships they think they have failed.
This is a short list of the most common insecurities. How many resonated with you? Let’s discuss how you can start debunking these insecurities.
How to start debunking them
As we have already established, insecurities stem from harmful past experiences, which makes them seem extremely valid. They are formed by repeating dialogue, whether internal or external, that then turns into a belief. This means that to debunk the belief, you first have to find reasons to believe that the negative belief created is false.
This means you have to look for the evidence or proof needed to disprove the negative or harmful belief. This is usually accomplished by building support systems that lift you up and help you see the good in yourself.
Another way to accomplish this is to start finding things that you are good at. With each accomplishment, you will build confidence and self-esteem, and you will not be too vulnerable to negative or limited thinking.
Something else you can start doing is aligning yourself with new ways to strengthen your ability to think positively, whether that be through the encouragement of family and friends or from listening to self-improvement podcasts, reading inspiring stories that resonate with you, or repeating positive affirmations to yourself throughout your day.
You can also try doing things that you love, which will help you feel connected and accepted not only by yourself but also by others. Any of these ways will help you switch from a limiting belief mindset that leaves you feeling alone, unloved, and unwanted to one that leaves you feeling loved, adored, and accepted.
Final thoughts
Now, the list of insecurities and ideas to overcome or debunk those insecurities is very short but effective. However, I would encourage you to find the methods that work best for you. The idea is to help you see yourself from a better perspective so that the love you have for yourself will grow and then, by extension, the love you have for others. You will also see the love that you have for others.
As I come to the close of this week’s newsletter, I hope, as I always do, that you found this information useful. I invite you to share this knowledge with anyone you feel it would be useful to.
If you would like to discuss this topic further or if you have thoughts you would like to share, please leave a comment section below. Thank you, as always, for taking this step toward becoming positively improved with me. Until next week, namaste.
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